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Being vulnerable seems to be an unwanted, negative thing. Who wants to be vulnerable? How hard do you work to keep a shield up because you fear the idea of being vulnerable? How do you react to others when they work to shut you down by shaming you and your feelings? Because people do this - all be it unconsciously sometimes. How do you overcome unconscious behavior, react to people who spew their ideas, or judgements upon you in an attempt to shut you down and deny your truth so they can exist in their bubble of reality?
What if you learn to be resilient? Shit happens - like, bad shit - to good people - all the time. If you live your life with this reality, can we learn to improve our capacity to anticipate, cope with, and resist and recover from the impact of any traumatic event or experience? When we fear vulnerability, I think we allow others ideas to diminish our own human experience - which is the root of shame. The concept is relative and dynamic.
If we practice resilience training, like we do with the MELT Method, or Heart Rate Variability Training, meditation or other mindful based practices, we improve our ability manage and recover from the impact of disruptive events without negative fundamental changes in our functionality, physical and mental structure, and spirituality.
If you can learn to see the perfection in any circumstance, even those that cause grief or shame (this is easier said than done by the way - how can you see perfection in abusive relationships, death, or trauma?) You can maintain your strength and improve your outcomes by actively participating in resilience training.
When trauma strikes, I think being vulnerable can improve your resilience. You can do this. It takes reflection, it takes time, feeling, trust in yourself, and active participation in seeing things from a different lens.
Can you remain strong and face adversity when it happens?