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Each day I write. Each day, over many months, just thoughts, stories, and reflections come to me. My outlet is a blank screen awaiting me and my thoughts. As I continue to take the risk of being vulnerable I am for the first time in my life sharing these thoughts with others through this platform, for better or for worse. I hope my words might help others in some way as they do me.
The past month of writing brings a word to mind. Honesty. What if you were radically honest? Like a kid just blurting out exactly what they saw or felt. A moment where you stop catering to the situation or fearing the response you might get. There is often a problem with being honest because of what's going on in our own mind. But if you were honest, with the objective to have the moment where you'd be able to talk about it, would you be totally honest?
I believe radical honesty occurs when you notice three very important things. Notice what’s going on inside your body, notice what’s going on outside of you, and notice what’s going through your mind right now and report what you notice. Period. That's radical honesty. If you're lying, nobody gets a chance to intervene for you because they believe everything is under control. This has been a recent revelation. Why is it when you are being honest it can backfire? Because the person you are laying down the honesty to is unable to be honest with reality and the truth.
Now, this is important. Remember, if you tell the truth, you might get in trouble. If you lie, the same might happen. In other words, lying and telling the truth can cause trouble. Honesty is often a disruptor of what looks calm and orderly on the surface to everyone around you. However, if you’re going to get into trouble, which is the best kind of trouble to get into? Honest trouble. The best kind of trouble is the trouble that’s created whenever you speak the truth. Even if it upsets somebody, hurts their feelings, or offends them, telling the truth moves the energy of life forward. The outcome may not be what you would expect or want to occur. But for certainty, enlightenment will transpire. These are life lessons.
When you open up to your awareness in your body, and your awareness of the other human being across from you, and your awareness of what’s going on through your mind, and you report them all – and do this not as an advocate trying to persuade someone to believe how you’re right and they’re wrong but just to report in honesty what you feel and what you see in a loving and compassionate way, this is the best kind of trouble to be in. Truth and honesty are vital information that we all need in order for us to be able to make it in the world.
When you experience an experience, it comes and goes. When you resist experiencing an experience, it persists. For example, if you feel shame and self-loathing and you abuse drugs to not feel the shame and loathing, you’re actually engaged in the very things that perpetuate shame and self-loathing. The major form of resisting your experience is by thinking too much. So if you’re thinking – if you’re trying to think your way around things, what you first need to do is stop thinking and just feel your way through things.
Happiness – your personal happiness is critically related to this, is dependent on this, and I think that survival of human kind is too. So I want you to get out there and start being radically honest and not fear getting in trouble for it.