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All relationships need to have boundaries. Boundaries are limits that you set to protect yourself and sustain a healthy relationship. Good boundaries allow us to get close to our family members, friends, and is a way to cultivate new relationship. Boundaries help us to share our thoughts and emotions without feeling we will be judged. They also protect us from harm.
We have to learn how to speak up for ourselves to say clearly what we want, speak the truth of what we see or feel in a loving way to uphold boundaries.
I believe depending on how you were raised, boundaries can be difficult to maintain. You learn to avoid confrontation if when one happened you were annihilated by speaking your truth. Perhaps you ignore what you observe. Our history shapes how we mentally process current states of being. If who you are keeping a boundary with is not in a healthy state of mental wellbeing the struggle can cause massive shifts in relationships.
If you don't maintain boundaries, you can actually enable a person, perpetuate dysfunction, and cause negative outcomes. In fact, if you keep boundaries, and speak the truth, you may also create a negative outcome like the loss of someone you love deeply. The question is, are you willing to hold a boundary, hold onto your truth and knowing, and protect yourself as a way to love a person - even if there is a possibility the outcome might cause separation when your goal is to bring your loved one closer to you? I love to hear your thoughts on how you've upheld a boundary that had consequences.